The current events over the past year have really put a strain on friendships. Everyone has their own views to which I have always empathically listened. I see both sides and truly understand the reason for standing for what you believe and support. But, I have a friend who doesn’t seem to care what your views are… hers are the only ones that are correct.
Trying to keep up with everyone’s views on the world around us is exhausting, to say the least. Listening to my friend’s views on all current events and how everyone who disagrees with her beliefs and ideals is wrong has become mentally and emotionally exhausting.
I’m a peacekeeper, an enneagram number 9. I don’t like to ruffle feathers. Keep my mouth shut. I absolutely HATE confrontation. This has made my friendship with her insanely difficult to navigate through during this season of life.
After talks with my therapist, an amazing life coach, and my husband I’ve come to the conclusion that I can’t do it anymore. It’s time to stand up and say that I love her, but these constant conversations about the current events around us are exhausting. They have honestly made me so anxious that panic attacks start to creep up after the texts, calls, and Facebook posts. If you really want to talk about all, that’s fine, just find someone who has the energy for them because at this time I’m tapped out.
I know the events are engulfing everyone’s lives, but I need a break. Between being a mom and the stress that comes with it, the last thing I want is to have our time together become a time of nonstop politics, coronavirus, religion, etc. I want the time back of giggling about our kids and their insane comments through the week. I’m ready to sit back and talk about what we would do if we won the power ball. Let’s sip on a glass of wine, or two, or a martini, and watch a murder documentary.
I know life will never be the same, but let’s just pretend for a little while. I’m sure it’ll do us both good. I just need a break.
