10 Year Anniversary: Marriage is Work

My husband and I have been together for 11 years and just celebrated our 10 Year wedding anniversary on January 11th, 2023. When I met my husband, I was 42 and he was 39. I had been married previously; however, neither one of us had children, so it seemed like a match made in heaven. We met at Walgreens in the Hallmark aisle. He is from Mexico, and I am from Texas, and here we found each other in Lafayette, Louisiana.

All I have ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother, and here was my prince to make that happen. We have a language barrier being that he speaks fluent Spanish and some English, and I speak fluent English and some Spanish. However, our universal language is “Love.” We have been through so much in these past ten years since we said “I do.” My husband is an immigrant, so we had to go through the immigration process, and that process can be extremely long and draining. My longing to be a mother coupled with my infertility issues added to the long journey that we had ahead of us. Yet, we pushed through and together we have made it all happen. Each and ever year since has been a celebration of our love and a celebration of our accomplishments despite setbacks that we experienced along the way.

After being denied the first go around on my husband’s visa in 2014, we also lost our son in 2014. However, we picked up and thanked GOD for our blessings and continued to fight. Finally in 2016, things began to be set in motion. My husband’s permanent residence was approved and we then became pregnant with our daughter in 2017 and she was born in 2018. Then our blessing of buying a new home and my husband being a first time homeowner in the United States happened in 2019. So much accomplished, so much joy and happiness, we had arrived. We had, he had the “American Dream.”

However, after my daughter was born, things became harder and our love language was still there, but it was more difficult because when two different cultures come together to try and raise a child it can be quite interesting, to say the least. What I had in my favor and still do is the fact my husband is passive, and I am aggressive, so we have worked through how we parent, and we have just put God first and prayed on how we are to accomplish molding and nurturing this precious gift and miracle we have been chosen to look after.

The past two years have been the most difficult for me: after trying for another baby in 2020 and losing that pregnancy, the hormones, the weight gain, the PTSD from losing my son in 2014, and still trying to parent our daughter on top of Covid and all that came with that. I was almost like this is not the plan, this is hard, I need a better husband, one that’s more attentive, helpful. But what I truly needed was to tap more into my relationship with Christ and stop trying to do it all myself and thinking my husband wasn’t doing anything. In fact he was, I just couldn’t see it. Once I turned it all over to God, things began to change, and I saw my husband through a different perspective. I started to see him how Christ saw him and how Christ made him, not how I thought he should be but how he was. Once I accepted that, the changes and the love language started to speak again, and our relationship is being rebuilt on the foundation of GOD’s word.

Marriage is hard work, and as long as you can have an open mind and an open heart, you can and will see the person God gave you to spend eternity with. You can and will fall in love all over again. It just takes time and work – so much work – but the outcome will be worth the effort, especially if you have children because they need both their mommy and daddy. I am looking forward to the next decade of love with my forever, my love, my husband the man who made me a wife and made me a mommy. To you, Mi Amor, I will forever be grateful.

Mark 10:9 …Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

10 Years Negrete Strong💪❣️

Feliz Aniversario Señor Negrete Te Amo

Kim Negrete
I am a Wife and A 1st Time Mommie@49 years of age, to A Beautiful Miracle Baby Girl. I am originally from Dallas, Texas and Have been in Cajun Country since 2005. Prior to my daughter's birth which gave me my Dream Job as a Stay at Home Mom I was in the hospitality industry and before that the transportation industry. My Husband is From Mexico and is in Construction . We love to do Destination Birthdays at The Beach and Travel to Dallas as often as possible to see MiMi. We Love GOD and Put him 1st in All things we do. We Love to just hang out at home in our backyard and enjoy our Daughter... We are The Negrete's Party of Three😇


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