We Keep Fighting About Rice and Gravy

Don’t hold it against him, but my husband is not Cajun.

He’s from northern Louisiana in an area that is more closely Arkansas or Texas, but basically, he’s absolutely not Cajun. Not even a little bit. I try to convert him little by little as best I can with Cajun phrases and traditions, but he’s an old dog and you know what they say about old dogs and new tricks. Thankfully, what he lacks in Cajun heritage he makes up for in general kitchen skills, which is great because that’s where I’m mostly lacking. He understands flavor and is fantastic at pulling greatness out of the ingredients he has on hand. At some point, it was suggested he may actually have ‘super-taster’ abilities. Since I am not creative in the kitchen, I enjoy allowing him to experiment and grow his culinary pallet. However, despite my not being Gordon Ramsey in the kitchen, I make it a point to cook a rice and gravy at least once per year and I do it faithfully, even if I have to cook it on New Year’s Eve. I know my way around a bowl of rice and gravy and it’s become a sore spot in our house.

We keep fighting about rice and gravy. 

This is one of the only recipes I can find online for what I consider to be “authentic” Cajun rice & gravy. As Ms. Sandra says (and I agree) – there is only *one* way to make a bowl of proper rice and gravy, and this morning my husband said to me “he put chicken soup in his rice and gravy” so he could make it super fast … I *tried* to will myself to have a poker face. I failed. I think I may have blinked offensively and it translated to, “Sorry, I don’t know what you’re cooking, but it’s not Cajun Rice and Gravy.” He got pretty defensive, I think he was already waiting for me to get snippy about his recipe because he looked like he came to fight – hence the poker face attempt. Obviously, we’ve had this passionate discussion before.

But y’all, that is not rice and gravy.

“Super quick” and “rice and gravy” do not go together in a sentence, just like *soup* and “rice and gravy” do not go together in a sentence (unless you’re talking about your favorite food categories). It’s not that hard but it does require patience, trinity, and the right pot.  ‘Cause you can only make authentic rice and gravy in a Magnalite (cast aluminum) pot or a seasoned cast iron pot … you could probably get away with a dutch oven but your ancestors might send Madame Grand Doigts to come down from the attic and snatch you up! 

All jokes aside, I will eat his meat and sauce over rice. I’m going to happily eat it and without complaint; heck I will probably love it. But it ain’t rice and gravy and I can’t control my face when he says it is. 

Sarah is a Cecilia native currently living in Lafayette's oil center. She's the mom to a Brady Bunch of 7 children ages 13 to 5. Married to Clint, her 'environmental superhero', they enjoy traveling often. The self-proclaimed queen of big family travel planning; she's also taken up GLAMPing as she explores the State and National Parks as part of their year of road schooling. Sarah started Real Product Talk, a product testing and secret shopper service, with her online bestie of 10+ years in 2014 and continues to grow as a major player in her field. When she's not working from home, she's can be found serving the less fortunate in Lafayette alongside Lafayette Mom Writer Ali Comeaux and their non-profit, With Love, Acadiana.


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