Dress Like a Mother

By now, we have all seen the pictures of Ciara’s dress at Vanity Fair’s Oscar party. I am also pretty sure that you have also seen all of the commentaries regarding said dress. While most can agree that her body is amazing, a lot of people felt that the dress was a little too risqué, never mind the fact that the theme of the party was ‘Barely There.’ A majority of the comments stated that she should dress like a mother. So now I raise the question, what does it mean to dress like a mother?

As women we are multifaceted. We wear so many hats. Wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend, and career woman, just to name a few. And each hat requires a different version and wardrobe. As a person that follows Ciara on social media, I can attest to the fact that when she is with her kids, she is fully clothed. When she is with her husband, she is dressed conservatively. In this instance, she was working and dressed as she would for any industry party. Let us not forget that from day one, she has always had her RIDICULOUS abs on display. So why would this party be any different?

For me, what was most disturbing about the comments is that most of them were from women. I was saddened to see women make such demeaning comments about a woman that had a baby two years ago. While some are struggling to lose the baby weight from children born way longer than two years ago. She should be applauded for bouncing back and walking that red carpet and exuding confidence.

At the end of the day, a woman should be able to dress however she wants, without society coming down on her for being too sexy (no such thing) or not dressing like a mother. There isn’t a ‘motherhood’ section in any department store, so therefore there isn’t a definite way to dress like a mother. Women have enough pressure to be all things at all times, we don’t need the added pressure of a dress code. And when is the last time you heard someone say that a man should dress like a father? I rest my case.

Torilyn Williams
Torilyn Williams is a Louisiana native, born and raised in New Orleans. She moved to Lafayette to attend UL Lafayette, where she graduated with a Bachelor’s in Applied Life Sciences. Tori is blessed to be the wife of her ambitious and hardworking husband, Damian. The devoted mom of Tatum Marie (6) and Aubrey Malia (5) and bonus mom to Damian Jr. (20). Tori has been working in the banking industry for over fifteen years. She is a member of Junior League Lafayette. Tori has a heart for volunteerism, she loves to give back to the community and mentor the youth. Tori is a die-hard New Orleans Saints fan. She is also a self-proclaimed foodie that loves to chronicle her food adventures on Instagram (@Dashofwilliams). Outside of work you can find Tori spending time with family and friends, traveling, trying new recipes, and working out. Tori is always down for a good meal with family or a shopping trip!


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