My daughter is four and half and just started school this year in Pre-K. This is the first and only time that I have left her with anyone other than myself. On occasion, she has stayed with my husband, her father. I have been invited to numerous events but I choose not to go to them because they are adult only types of events and to get a babysitter or to leave her with a friend or neighbor, well I am just not there yet.
There are numerous reasons why I feel this way. The main reason is just simply because I do not want to. I had my daughter for me to spend as much time with her as possible. I love every moment with her; she is my +1. Being that I am an older mom, I did all my stuff before her, and now I am doing all my stuff with her. Am I missing out on anything? Maybe, but I would rather miss out on a dinner here or a party there than to miss something cute my daughter says or does. Is this too over the top? Well, it doesn’t matter to me. What I choose for my life may not be so much for another’s and that is fine. I am enjoying every moment with her because I am well aware there might come a day when mommy is not that cool or that fun or that rad (if rad is even a term kids still use these days). That will be a bridge we cross when we come to it, but for now, I want to be invited and if my +1 can’t attend, I won’t be getting a babysitter. If she can attend, then we will both be there with bells on.
One thing is for certain. I get it when people say an event is adults only or just us girls because y’all need that time together to regroup. Then you are refreshed to go back in and wear all of the many hats that we moms wear.
So for now we will not be getting a babysitter because I want to sit with my baby and soak in every moment until she goes off to college and off doing those things where no moms are allowed. I’ll see you all in about 14 years, and if the party is still going, I might finally just stop by.