Lessons From The First Half Of My Forties

Lessons From The First Half Of My Forties

May is upon us! The month of May brings on lots of celebrations. Weddings, graduations, graduation parties, recitals, end of the school year celebrations, Mother’s Day, and Cinco de Mayo. But in my world, May signals my birthday. This month I will celebrate turning 45!

While many see this age as the downward spiral to fifty, I prefer to see it as a blessing that I am so very excited about. The first five years of my forties have been pivotal. I have grown in my career, personal life, physical well-being, and mentally. At the big age of (almost) forty-five, I have learned so much. I would like to share some of the things that I have learned.

They are in no particular order of importance, as they are all important lessons.

Physical fitness is a must. Creating a consistent workout schedule is so good for you in so many ways. It helps you carve out a pocket of space where you are doing something for you and only you. And besides being good for your waistline, it works wonders for your mental clarity.

At some point, you will have to parent your parents. I will tread lightly as my I know my mom will read this. But as we age, so do our parents. If you are still blessed to have your parents, you know what I am talking about. As times and technology change, we find ourselves teaching our parents how to use their phones and computers. We also find ourselves worrying when they don’t answer their phones. The worry they had for us in our teen years has been transferred to us. And let me tell you, they are hardheaded!

Gray hair will grow any and everywhere! No real explanation needed. I also recently learned that when you have gray hairs, they are way harder and more to laser. So, if you are thinking of getting laser treatment, get it before you turn gray.

If you have a consistent skin care regimen, be prepared to add new products. As you age, your skin will change, and you will need new things. Think collagen, niacinamide, hyaluronic acid and peptides. Do your research, speak to your esthetician and invest in your skin care.

Lessons From The First Half Of My FortiesMenopause is no joke! Neither is perimenopause. Your cycle will change. What was once a quick and easy three to five days has now become a hellacious three to five days of heavy flows, cramps, back aches, headaches, and hot flashes. I have learned how to lessen the blow of Aunt Flo with slight modifications to my diet, vitamin regimen, and of course by adding movement.

Hot flashes are a real thing. Imagine minding your business and suddenly you feel this wave of heat start in your belly and expand to your toes, fingertips, ears, all over. And there is no way you can cool off. These flashes can come anywhere, and all you want to do is strip, but sadly that would not help. And then as quickly as it started, it stops.

Learn about Hormone Replacement Therapy. If you are in your late thirties or early forties, I suggest you start researching HRT and your options. I have just started my research as I have had many friends tell me horror stories about perimenopause and menopause, and I want to be prepared and know my options.

These are just a few key take aways from the first half of my forties. One major take away is that time really is fleeting. I can remember turning twenty-five like it was yesterday, now here I am preparing for forty-five. I am seeing my friends’ kids graduate from college and start families while it feels like I babysat them less than five years ago, and in actuality it’s been twenty years. So, I will definitely say to live life to the fullest, cherish every moment, be present. Take care of yourself physically and mentally so you can have a long fruitful life.

Here’s to forty-five years of living and loving. I can’t wait to let you all know how amazing it is!

Torilyn Williams
Torilyn Williams is a Louisiana native, born and raised in New Orleans. She moved to Lafayette to attend UL Lafayette, where she graduated with a Bachelor’s in Applied Life Sciences. Tori is blessed to be the wife of her ambitious and hardworking husband, Damian. The devoted mom of Tatum Marie (6) and Aubrey Malia (5) and bonus mom to Damian Jr. (20). Tori has been working in the banking industry for over fifteen years. She is a member of Junior League Lafayette. Tori has a heart for volunteerism, she loves to give back to the community and mentor the youth. Tori is a die-hard New Orleans Saints fan. She is also a self-proclaimed foodie that loves to chronicle her food adventures on Instagram (@Dashofwilliams). Outside of work you can find Tori spending time with family and friends, traveling, trying new recipes, and working out. Tori is always down for a good meal with family or a shopping trip!


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