I see you scrolling fitness influencer sites looking for the best summer beach bod workout, or which cleanse promises to rid yourself of inches. I see you sweating it out only to be perpetually dissatisfied with your progress. I see you weighing and tracking your food in the hopes of greater success. I see you working.
But please, be gentle with yourself, especially your body. She has been through some stuff.
Give yourself time and release expectations of needing to be smaller. That magnificent body of yours carried you through some doozies: from pregnancy and births, to raising 4 small humans, to your father’s death. She has done a lot of work already. Let’s remember that next time you want to throw a negative thought her way.
Encourage her by feeding her good foods and getting her stronger, and she will become her healthiest self. That doesn’t necessarily mean she will be smaller, although if that’s what happens that is ok. She can change and fluctuate. But working toward her healthiest version by prioritizing her needs, be that stillness, pleasure, movement, softness, or ripped abs, will serve you best.