Love Where You Are

Are you loving where you are in life? 

So, that’s a trick question, I know. But it’s a question that forces us to look at ourselves closely. As moms, we often take care of ourselves last, if at all, and many times when we realize just what we’ve been doing, we no longer recognize who we are. The question gets tricky; it can mean so many different things.

Do you love where you are in motherhood, the kind of mother you are?

Do you love where you are physically and emotionally in life; where you live, your career, your marriage and other relationships?

Do you love where you are spiritually?

The list really can go on and on. The fact is, loving where we are has no one beginning or end. It’s an ever changing, continuous action that quite frankly we will never, ever get right. It’s emotion and endless amounts of trying, failures and accomplishments all wrapped up in the same little box. Now, I know someone reading this is saying, “I’m down in the pits and you want me to love it? You’re a crazy woman.” Just between us, I may have pulled that from my own mind as I write this; you are not alone, and you are not the only soul I write this for.  

Love the heck out of the mess you’re in!

It’s teaching you something, and that is where you ultimately find the true beauty within. Doesn’t matter what “it” is. Feel like you are the mother that constantly fails? I get it. No one loves to fail, and for moms, it’s so easy to feel like no one sees us or knows our struggles. Enter those pesky little doubts we thought we let go of. Side note; those doubts are always waiting patiently for us to open the door and let them in. In our most tired and weak moments, something miraculous can happen when we begin to recognize the lessons in our failures. Love your situation and yourself enough and you won’t even have to look very hard to figure out what needs changing.  

Imperfect is Normal.

The world we live in teaches us that we should love where we are only when things are perfect. Once you become a mom you learn rather quickly that nothing is ever perfect. Let me tell you that even the most perfect seeming situations are often not loved enough. So can I challenge you to start there? 

In the midst of the mess, the chaos, the broken or the perfect! Loving it doesn’t mean you’re accepting the pit if you’re in it, and it certainly doesn’t mean glorifying the perfect if you’re there. It means loving each moment and each thing enough to fix what is broken, or to nurture what is weak. It means loving each moment and each thing enough to slow down, be present, and truly see and feel the joy in that moment. It means loving yourself enough to know what your strengths and weaknesses are. Start loving where you are, and you will reap the benefits. Sometimes life is just plain hard. Sometimes it’s overflowing with amazing ease and joy. Don’t lose yourself in transition between the seasons.

Love wins, every time and in all things. As a mom, there is nothing more powerful to remember.  

Lashonda Rochon
Lashonda is a passionate, big dreaming, crafty, fashion loving, career oriented, lover of Christ, wife and mother! Currently she and her husband, Brandon, along with their three sons, live in Lafayette. A graduate of UL Lafayette and a Realtor by profession, Lashonda is committed to being part of the growth of Lafayette through community action and involvement that will help shape the area for years to come. Both personally and professionally, her main goal is not to achieve perfection, but to win in life with grace (for others and herself), gratitude, and love! She believes though life may be hard, messy, and seemingly impossible at times, there is always beauty in the ashes. She finds it awesome and challenging to mother three wild and crazy boys and wouldn't give up being their mom for anything in the world.

3 COMMENTS

  1. Awesome! I’m a mom of 3 grown boys and 4 grandkids. I try everyday to be the best mom/GiGi to my kids. When I don’t get it right, I tell myself that I’ll have another opportunity to try.

  2. This is so good!! Being a mom of three children has been both the greatest achievement of my life as well as the most challenging journey I’ve ever encountered. Love is so very important to raise confident, strong children to become confident and strong adults…the hardest part as a mom sometimes is that we must first learn to love ourselves so we can become the best version of ourselves and by doing that, we will be the best mom we can be!! Thanks Lashonda!!

  3. What a gift ?. This message is a great reminder to live and love in the moment instead of setting unrealistic expectations or focusing on what you aren’t.

    I absolutely love this blog!!!

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