Ask yourself that again. How can you be sure?
I’m sure it’s a question you’ve not only asked yourself, but you’ve certainly asked it of others. When your kid is sick, you may question their doctor. How can you be sure this is the best path to recovery?
If you have a daycare or school-aged children, we ask that of their caregivers or teachers – how can I be sure my child is in the best hands? Hands that will care for my child the same way I do.
I’m sure you’ve asked it of yourself in even the most routine tasks. How can you make sure you get to work on time? You set your alarm, you know your morning routine, so surely you know how much time you need in the morning to arrive on time. But what if you encounter an accident along the way that derails your plans? What if your certainty is now doubt?
I’ll be honest. I don’t like being asked the question. I don’t like asking myself the question, either. I certainly don’t like asking my son’s teacher.
No one can be sure of anything. We live in a world of unpredictables. Trust me, my anxiety feels it daily. But the question in and of itself leads to immediate doubt, lack of trust and confidence, and negativity.
Instead of asking “how can you be sure?” try “I know you’re prepared, I trust you.”
Talk about a confidence booster.
Instead of asking your child “how are you sure you’ll pass your test?” you might ask “are you prepared?” or say “I’m confident you’ll do your best.”
It’s a change in mindset. A simple change of words but it really can do wonders for someone’s confidence and trust.
None of us will ever be sure, but we can have faith in our choices as well as the people we choose to be in our lives. Try to be someone’s confidence booster today.