I’m sure scrolling through your Facebook feed, you see memes shared by your friends. Some absolutely hilarious and some, well in my opinion, in poor taste. I often see friends posting what they assume to be great memes and images on stating different quotes about priorities.
Often times, when I see one, I’m immediately insulted and aggravated. Not long ago, there were physical activities I couldn’t participate in. The average person would have never known by looking at me, and my not-so-inner circle of friends probably didn’t know either. But there I was, going through fertility treatments that sometimes led to ovary hyperstimulation syndrome resulting in limited activity, i.e., walking my dogs may be considered too active.
Before I began my fertility journey, I was an active person. I loved running, Zumba, weight lifting, you name it. Exercise is my stress relief and my happy place.
Once we started fertility, I thought we’d have quick success and this would all soon be history. But five years later, I learned a lot.
Restricted activity wasn’t exactly bed rest, but it was all but. Sitting and standing was my new activity level. Honestly, sitting to use the bathroom even hurt. I remember thinking how many times I, too, made assumptions about other people. I assumed they didn’t want to exercise or eat better. I assumed the things they did were the things they prioritized. I may have even shared one of those terrible memes. I fell horrible for being that person.
I also remember promising myself that when I could do all of my happy things again, I would never stop. Since then, I’ve run more races including a half marathon. I visit the gym almost 5 days a week, and when I’m not there, I’m moving as much as possible.
Next time you assume you understand someone’s choices or priorities, I hope you think about my other favorite meme below before you choose to share yours.
