Dear Husband, Thank You for Everything

Dear Husband, 

As we prepare to welcome our third child today, I feel inclined to just tell you “thank you.” Thank you for everything. I know I do not say it enough and I may not say it enough in the future, so I want to make sure and tell you now. I love you and appreciate everything you do for me and this family.

A lot has changed in the 17 years since we first met – fraternity parties and college football games to a mortgage, tuition, and whining children. Times sure have changed, but I know you would not change anything, and this is why I love you so. First you loved ME and only me; we had time, money, and the freedom to do as we chose. Now you love US and all of the headache that comes with a family – financial burden, schedules, and lack of personal space and time. You allow me to give myself completely to this family and that takes time and attention away from you. And for this, I cannot thank you enough.

Thank you for agreeing to a third child after I begged you for one for years. Thank you for making it possible for me to work and raise these kids without losing my mind. I could never do work, family, and home without all of your hard work in and out of our home. Sometimes I wonder what we have gotten ourselves into, but I always know that I will get through anything with you by my side. This, to me, is absolutely priceless.

Thank you for loving us even through the difficult times. Raising a family is hard work that is full of trials and challenges. Kids will make you question every thought and action that you make. But still you never second guess me and I am so grateful for the trust you place in me when it comes to our family. Having a true partner in this life is what makes my heart continue to beat. We both work so hard, and at the end of the day you get what is left over – a tired and fussy wife and kids. This isn’t necessarily fair, but at this time it is all we have to give. And we thank you for accepting and loving it.

No one ever said this would be easy, but you have somehow managed to make it as great as it could possibly ever be, and for this I thank you. The good times are great, but I do not feel like these are what make us a family. It is the difficult things that we deal with and conquer that make us a family. At the end of the road when we are done raising our family and are looking back at these days, we will only remember the “good times.” The “difficult times” will be a distant memory that we will probably forget for the most part or laugh about how we struggled through.

But I will always remember how you were my partner in crime through it all; the good and bad. And for this, I love you and thank you from the bottom of my heart.


Your Grateful Wife

Lauren James
Lauren is a native New Orleanian that was transplanted to Lafayette in 2008 by her husband of 11 years, Daniel. She has a B.S.N. from Louisiana State University – School of Nursing and a M.S.N. from the University of South Alabama. Her “paying gig” is as a Nurse Practitioner with a focus in Quality/Infection Prevention at a local hospital. Her other full-time gig is as keeper of her home and mom to William 7, Mary Kathryn 6, and Benjamine 2. Most of her days at home are spent picking up toys and socks off the floor so the family Bernese Mountain Dog, Tipper, does not demolish them. When she has a spare moment, she enjoys reading crime novels, playing board game with her kids, cooking and baking foods that are not on her diet, and finding any reason to celebrate by drinking her beloved champagne. To burn off a few calories and any leftover energy, the family enjoys walking or riding bikes on the shaded boulevard on which they live. Lauren has fallen in love with the people and city of Lafayette and is very proud to raise her family here and to now call it home.


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